Wednesday, February 8, 2006

oh, Betty







Betty Friedan was thought to be the leader of the femenist movement and was the founder of the National Organization of Women. She died in her sleep a few days ago at the age of 85. This is what she thinks about me:

"Housewives are mindless and thing-hungry... ; They are trapped in trivial domestic routine and meaningless busywork within a community that does not challenge their intelligence. Housework is peculiarly suited to the capabilities of feeble-minded girls; it can hardly use the abilities of a woman of average or normal human intelligence."

Well! I'm not going to give a long, tedious diatribe as to why I think this woman was deceived, but let's just say that she didn't know what an amazing life we are given when we live in Christ...even as a lowly housewife (which is only a third of what I do, right? ;)

What irks me about femenist activists is their incessant denial of the benefit of women who choose to stay home and raise up Godly (or at least intellegent) children. They insult women who want to stay home; they slight women who want to be mothers. Well, if every woman decided that motherhood was oppression where would all the people be?

(bonnet tip to gotmeacollegegirl.com for the quote from Friedan.)

6 thoughts:

HillaryMc said...

You make it sound as though "housewives" have chosen to raise Godly/intelligent children...are you saying that those of us who do not stay at home are choosing NOT to do these things? Working women who have families see/feel just as much prejudice as homemakers. But if we make a big deal out of our martyrdom we allow people to continue to persecute us, whatever the situation may be: black, white, married, single, christian, atheist. Well, you get the idea. Be proud of the decision you've made for your life and your family, but let's stop pointing fingers at who is pointing fingers at us! Rejoice in the life you have, and share with others why you've made that choice and why it is such a good one for you! But do not judge others for leading their life differently, lest we become the next generation of Betty's.

Now don't misunderstand me, I realize what you are saying that you have chosen this path, and that if all women chose not to have children we'd be at the end of our world as we know it. But you didn't give credit to women who are having children and working outside the home. We also get slandered. Especially by women who stay at home/the Church. Which is especially hard to be persecuted by people that have the same spiritual beliefs as yourself. I would much rather be judged by someone who does not know Christ than by someone who does!

meggan said...

i have to add that while my husband was at grad school, and i was raising our children, i was proven oh so wrong when i learned that the feminists, these respectable educated followers of God, valued my place in the home very highly. that is because *I* chose it, i wasn't *placed* here by a controlling husband. truely, modern feminism is not about bashing women who are "mindlessly at home." the ones who *do* say such things are a teeny minority...unfortunately, the loud minority is ofter heard clearer than the majority-they tend to whine louder.
::shrug::

magnolia's mama said...

Hillary,
Good point, "Rejoice in the life you have, and share with others why you've made that choice." You have helped me shape my blog. Note the disclaimer- my goal *is* to share & document our journey of desicion making. I don't exactly plan on being politically correct, but I will try to be less abrasive to others who have made different choices.
Meggan,
Thanks for commenting! This is obviously a blog-in-the-making. I have no idea what it was like in the home during Friedan's generation, and I'm thankful that today women do have a choice.
I don't think all choices are equal, and I feel confident saying so, but I'm not trying to make people angry here. Just seeking God's truth.

HillaryMc said...

Bonnie,

Don't worry about making people angry...it's YOUR blog!! But, you have NOT made me angry. It's good to seek God's truth, and it's even better to have a community of friends in Christ to do that with. The moment we know it all, is the moment we've let satan in! I admit, I will have to do more research on whether or not it is a black/white area, or a grey area, on whether or not women should be working while raising their children. I know that I definately support women who stay at home with their children, and I also know that I would LOVE to be able to do that as well. I could go on and on about that though. In response to something else you've said, I believe on your front page...I absolutely disagree with the idea that God has called ALL women to marry, have children, and stay in the home(this is not a grey area)I am still looking for the actual scripture, but I do know that the Bible talks about how it is a weak woman who marries (the vast majority of all of us), and it takes a very strong and devoted woman (to GOD and to serving Him) to live life unmarried (the vast minority). And He has definately called some women, and men, to be single. This is because they can be more devoted to furthering his kingdom when they don't have the distractions of a family. I hope all of that made sense, and I will get the scriptures as soon as I can get my hands on them!

James said...

I believe Paul states in I Corinthians 7:8-9 8 "But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion." This tells me that it is possible to be single and thus more devoted to God. I however know that there are very few individuals who have been given this "gift of singleness". I don't know where I would be without my wife who has furthered my devotion and understanding of God, however the thoughts of family do take away from my time to study and think about God. My personal belief given my studies of scripture is that a woman should stay home which would benefit the family and is further evidence of the order that God has given us for the family.

On a lighter note, this blog is wonderfully put together. Mine which has been up for a while isn't so nice.

magnolia's mama said...

James,
I have heard, and yes that means I have *not* sought it out to understand it myself, but I have heard that when Paul is speaking here he says all this because the church is being persecuted (stoned, killed, etc), and under those circumstances it was better to remain single. If you had a spouse and children to look after, indeed, you may not do all that you were called to do for fear of persecution of yourself and your family. This makes sense to me, but again I'm not certain as I'm not so sure how to get into the Greek to understand it *for myself*.

And thanks for the compliment! (you like pink? ;)